From the BlogMeet Ron


Where does A.A. get its direction?. . . These practical folk then read Tradition Two, and learn that the sole authority in A.A. is a loving God as He may express Himself in the group conscience. . . The elder statesman is the one who sees the wisdom of the group’s decision, who holds no resentment over his reduced status, whose judgment, fortified by considerable experience, is sound, and who is willing to sit quietly on the sidelines patiently awaiting developments. 
Vernon Howard’s  SECRETS OF LIFE (R)
“The single greatest fear in any human being is the fear of
non-existence. Stated another way, a man fears he won’t continue
to be himself forever and ever. Not having a sureness of eternal
life, he drives himself crazy trying to find it, always looking
in the wrong place. He foolishly fights his fear of non-endurance
by inventing dozens of identities for himself, hoping that a hardy
survivor might be among them. His imaginary identities number into
the thousands, all crammed with delusion and danger.”
 Conquer Harmful Anger 100 Ways, p. 2
18 April 2017
The deception of others is nearly always rooted in the deception of ourselves. . . . When we are honest with another person, it confirms that we have been honest with ourselves and with God.
— AS BILL SEES IT, p. 17
When I was drinking, I deceived myself about reality, rewriting it to what I wanted it to be. Deceiving others is a character defect—even if it is just stretching the truth a bit or cleaning up my motives so others would think well of me. My Higher Power can remove this character defect, but first I have to help myself become willing to receive that help by not practicing deception. I need to remember each day that deceiving myself about myself is setting myself up for failure or disappointment in life and in Alcoholics Anonymous. A close, honest relationship with a Higher Power is the only solid foundation I’ve found for honesty with self and with others.
From the book Daily Reflections
Copyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.
 The more natural we can be, 
the more spontaneous we can be… 
The more power we shall have. 
The science of Mind page 176 
Al Anon is like a laboratory, 
we experiment and find out what works for us.

Ala-non member 

This just gives me a better way to be a better listener.
“True love is not a hide and seek game: in true love, both lovers seek each other.” 
― Michael Bassey Johnson
Don’t be satisfied with stories, 
how things have gone with others. 
Unfold your own myth.
~ Rumi 
various contiributors
ACIM Workbook Lesson 107 Insights
“Truth will correct all errors in my mind.”
Any time I feel anxious, impatient, hurried, unhappy, guilty or less than peaceful in any way, it is a sign that I am believing in error. I am making an error real in my mind. Truth will correct that error in my mind and return me to the place of calm so deep it cannot be disturbed.
Truth is everywhere, ever present. There is no place I need to go, no place I need to be to find the truth. It is always with me. I only need to stop holding barriers against the truth, stop believing in error. This is the undoing referred to in the Course. I need do nothing to find the truth, but I do need to stop interfering with the awareness of truth. It is the feverish attempt to hold on to illusions and make them real that bars truth from healing my mind. As I stop holding on to error, the truth will enter of its own because truth is what I am in reality.
So today I ask my one Self to walk with me and guide my vision to recognize the illusions I have made that stand in the way of my awareness of truth. I accept His strength as mine and use that strength to let illusions go. It is the strength of the one Self in me through which I forgive the world, forgive myself and let truth correct all illusions in my mind.
I rest in peace and gratitude in the strength of my Self. The weight of the world is lifted from my shoulders, for the errors of the world are corrected as I let truth correct the errors in my mind. God’s peace is mine. I accept it now. With gratitude I offer that peace to all the world.
When I closed my eyes, I was shown a movie theater. The way to see the movie in this theater was to look through the body’s eyes. Through the body’s eyes pictures were seen where everything appeared to be separate and distinct, different and unique.
Many stories arose while looking through the body’s eyes and gradually I found myself becoming more and more engrossed with the stories. They seemed very real. These stories were about individual lives where individual identities lived and died. There were stories of victory and tragedy, competition, life and death. As I became more and more engrossed in the stories, I felt feelings of fear, elation, lack, anxiety, struggle, hanging on and constant ever-changing ups and downs. The stories went on and on, with one problem after another. My anxiety level went up and down with all the constant changes in the stories. The stories are tiring. I ask for a better way.
I am told to step back from the stories by ever so little, to detach my mind from them. I am asked to let my mind be quiet and give the stories a rest. As I do this, I am brought to an inner place of quiet, a place of inner peace. An inner Voice tells me that these stories are not real. These stories are hallucinations brought on by the desire to see individuality, specialness, separation from oneness. I ask, “How do I detach from the stories? They seem so real it seems impossible to detach from them.” The inner Voice says, “You can with help.”
If you don’t want to detach from the stories, you won’t. If you want to detach from the stories, you will. Truth will enter into your mind as it is given welcome. Practice giving welcome to the truth a little at a time every day. The more you practice, the stronger your ‘welcoming the truth muscles’ grow. You want to walk in the truth but you must practice it. At first a little, and then more and more. The more you practice, the stronger your willingness to welcome the truth becomes. The truth is always there waiting on welcome. The truth will always show you that the stories are not real. Individuality could never be real. What you see through the body’s eyes is not real.
You are infinite Spirit, the eternal Spirit of Love, joy and peace. You are changeless. You are Thought in the Mind of Love. Love gives all to all equally. There is no division of any kind. All is One. All is Love. The stories are not real. They are barriers to the truth. As you practice welcoming the truth, the truth will correct all errors in your mind. The veil will be lifted and you will be set free from the self-imposed tyranny of the stories of separation. Take time out to let the truth correct all errors in your mind. Nothing is more important than this.
I agree that nothing is more important. I am more aware of my stories as stories and more determined to let them go. But I notice that many of the stories have the same theme even though the stories are different. I read a couple of articles that talked about the need for struggle as a core belief. We sometimes say something like, “God uses our struggles to help us grow.” The article suggested new core beliefs based on learning through joy and peace.
I think that this is true of me and I am glad for these last several lessons which emphasizes joy and peace. Getting a little distance from my stories I can see that I have been more comfortable with struggle than with peace. I have been believing that I can get more done through struggle and peace is perhaps a reward for struggling. I am excited at the idea of a new, happier way of living.
© 2003, Pathways of Light.
Most people are copies of someone else, imitating what others do ….
You should be a different individual, 
expressing the very best of your own unique nature.
Paramahansa Yogananda
Oh, Thou, who Man of baser Earth didst make,
And who with Eden didst devise the Snake;
For all the Sin wherewith the Face of Man
Is blackened, Man’s Forgiveness give—and take!
Ron Richey
545 Queen St. #701
Honolulu, Hi 96813

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