From the BlogMeet Ron


Honolulu folks –> Join a supportive group of like-minded folks tonight 4/21/16, for meditation, mindful movement and discussion at our place, 3241 Alani Drive, in Manoa, at the usual time: 6 to 7:30 PM. If you have a meditation cushion please bring; if not, no worries. The front door opens at 5:50. Note: please do not park in the driveway, as we share this rented house with another couple and we do not want them to be blocked in. Thanks!
Have you ever come home after a busy day and found the latest Costco coupon book with their latest items on sale?

And have you ever not really been waiting for a sale on something, like the printer that died last week that you need to replace soon … and, well you sit down with anticipation and start looking at stuff because, maybe, just maybe, you want to want something?

Or have you ever, perhaps a little while after a really good good meal, fully satiated, decided it was time to do some dishes, but on the way to the sink, you stop at the fridge … and opened it to look around? Thinking maybe there is something new in here I don’t know about?

Or have you ever been angry about something that happened in your day, but then got super busy and made a mental note that you would get back and chew on the incident some more … but you forgot what it was … but you were still angry?

Maybe in that case you start to think of justifications as to why you are still angry, and come up with a list that is clearly irrelevant to anything that happened today?

I am guilty on all 3 counts.

It doesn’t matter if it’s just wanting something, like a half of one of those yummy-looking muffins that just showed up in the fridge when you were already full, or wanting to sink your teeth into some juicy details “explaining” to you why you just seem generally pissed off today – we seem to be carried around by our unexamined thoughts.

These examples are all pretty innocuous and harmless. But hang in here with me…

The brain weighs about three pounds, which isn’t that much when you think about it. But it believes it speaks the absolute truth to us every moment of our busy, over stimulated, and often over caffeinated, lives. It speaks to us through thoughts.

And these thoughts are often under the horizon of our conscious awareness. Mindfulness meditation allows us to “sneak behind enemy lines” –yes, a little harsh here, insinuating the mind is an “enemy” – but truly, is the unexamined mind is really such a good friend?

For many of us, with complicated personal histories, the mind we start this journey with, is often an unreliable authority.

Can see the implications here? Thoughts happen just like that. We often believe what they say automatically, without a “second thought.”

Would you buy a used car this way?

You can see, right? – That this unexamined, wholesale accession to what our mind comes up with moment by moment is, shall we say, risky?

As the wise ones of old would say, the mind is a good servant, but a bad master.

The unexamined mind, that is.

It doesn’t take much to see, when we take the unexamined mind to be our master, how conflicts arise, how marriages fail, how workplaces become toxic …

Our simple meditation practice shows us front and center that our mind seems to nearly always be involved with something.

As we settle in meditation, perhaps bring attention to the breath or the touch sensations on the cushion, floor or chair, we begin to see more and more clearly that this mind is quite adept and sneaking out the back door.

One instant it could be making a dash for something it really wants, like those muffins, or getting revenge in some office drama fantasy. The next it gets sucked into remorseful thoughts about your choice of career, current romantic interest, or credit card debt.

Then it’s back to our friend anger.

Our mind seems to be perpetually busy keeping track of this and that. And sometimes we lose track and can’t remember how we got to where we are.

Then sometimes the meditation session leader rings the bell .. and oh, yes, I have been sitting here with my eyes closed for 30 minutes.

Relax .. this happens to everybody.

The way to rest our over-stimulated mind is just to let go of all thoughts about our thoughts.

We can simply relax as our thoughts come and go.

This advice from Dza Kilung Rinpochen is priceless.

Please take it to heart.

“If you have only five or ten minutes to spare, that helps a lot. You don’t have to be an excellent mediater to start with. All you need to do is have your heart and mind make the following agreement: “Let’s rest. There’s no reason right now to wander around following thoughts or to be worrying. Let’s be relaxed and open.” There’s not even any need to shut down your thoughts. Just be there with them, but not overly concerned or engaged. Let there be total openness, and just relax within that.”
And I would only add:
Right now.

Katina and I are here to support your meditation practice in any way we can.


Tom, Katina, Uilalani and Kupaianaha

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