From the BlogMeet Ron

JAN.2017 HEARD AT ALA-NON MEETING

HEARD AT ALA-NON MEETING

When I say no I feel like I’m putting myself in danger.
 Al-anon member
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If things are okay I always tend to think
the shoes are you going to drop on the other foot.
Ala-non member
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The Apollo 13 was only on track 10% of the time,
so is always doing u-turns.
Ala-non member
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I had to constantly re-parent it myself before
I could have a baby. Ala-non member
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A coincidence is a little miracle in which
God chooses to remain anonymous.Alanon member
 
Be in nature and discover how much God loves you,
 “Pause, so you can hear the rabbits.”.
Ala-non member
 
I cannot give other people the status
of my Higher Power.
Ala-non member
 
“God helps those who don’t try to take over His work”. ODAT pg 196
 
What ever your heart clings to, that is your God. Martin Luther
A mind is a dangerous place, don’t go there alone..Alanon member

Learn to give from my overflow rather that from my reserve. 
This is self care, we learn to let go of burdens we were never 
meant to carry. Learn to ask, “What is the best thing for me?”
Ala-non member


An expectation is a premeditated resentment.
Courage to Change  Page 153
 
Any time I am in resentment,
I am not taking care of myself.
I am blaming someone else for something I need to do.
Ala-non member
The higher the expectations,
the lower the serenity.
I try to keep my boundaries high,
my expectations low, and my heart open. 
Ala-non member


You Can Control Yourself,
You Can Change Yourself,
You Can Cure Yourself.
Ala-non member

I am not responsible for other people’s happiness.Ala-non member

Anger can be constructive in telling me that 
someone else is stepping on some boundaries 
that I need to enforce.
Ala-non member

My Happiness is My Responsibility.
Ala-non member

I cannot give other people the status 
of my Higher Power.
Ala-non member
 
I want to be able to respond, not react.Ala-non member

The difference between pity and compassion – pity elevates me, compassion is empathy for another’s humanness.Ala-non member

When I blame someone else for something,

 I give up my power to them.
Ala-non member

What you think of me is none of my business.
Ala-non member

Just for today I will adjust myself to what is,
and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.Ala-non member

I didn’t cause it, but if I recognize that I may have contributed to it,
then I need to own that part: only that.
Ala-non member

I can please only one person per day.
Today is not your day…
Tomorrow’s not looking good either!
Ala-non member

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 I want to be able to respond, not react.Ala-non member

Doing the same thing over and over again

 and expecting different results.Ala-non member
 
Willingness = a readiness to change one’s perception.Ala-non member
 
The difference between pity and compassion –
pity elevates me, compassion is empathy for another’s humanness. 

Ala-non member

Pain is something that comes and goes,
suffering is something we hold on to
Ala-non member
 
 

Denial is the shock absorber for the soul.
 It protects us until we are equipped to cope with reality.Alanon member
 
Martyrdom, manipulating, managing and mothering.
Ala-non member
 
“The only difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is in how you use them” ODAT pg 185
 
 
 
It is futile to spend time trying to figure out what
makes some one else tick.Alanon member
 
When I blame someone else for something,
I give up my power to them.
Alanon member
 
What you think of me is none of my business. 
Ala-non member

When I get into a situation, I always ask myself,
“What is my part in it? What is going on with me?” 


Alanon member
 
Thing to say to the alcoholic when he/she does his/her thing: 
  I never thought of it that way. 
   You could be right 
 
Alanon member
 
 
This is what I want. This is what I need.
This is what I feel. This is what I think.
This is what I will do.Ala-non member
 
It is easier to resist the bait than to
struggle with the hook.
Alanon member
 
My Happiness is My Responsibility.Ala-non member
 
Worry is a terrible waste of time.Ala-non member
 
Say what you mean, mean what you say, 
but don’t be mean when you say it.
Ala-non member
 
Would I rather be Right or would I rather be HAPPY
Ala-on member
 
“Be yourself because everyone else is taken.”  Oscar Wilde
 
Al Anon is like a laboratory,
we experiment and find out what works for us.


Alanon member 

 

“Helping” I’m disrespecting their ability to do it themselves.
I’m saying that they are broken.
Alanon member
 
I am just showing up to listen.Alanon member
 
“I remove the other person’s dignity if I try to make
their decisions for them”  ODAT pg 200

 
Control is only an illusion.Alanon member
 
When we point a finger at someone,
three are pointing back at us.
Alanon member
 
At times I am afraid of my own feelings if 
I don’t get in there and try to control.. what if?
Alanon member
 
When I have a feeling, 
I lean into it and look at the idea behind the feeling.
Ala-non member

Learn to live with the “dis-ease” that comes when you stop something
and practice new behavior, the feelings will pass.
Ala-non member 

 
Anger can be constructive in telling me that someone else
is stepping on some boundaries that I need to enforce.
Alanon member
 
I cannot give what I do not have.Alanon member
 
I am not responsible for other people’s happiness.Alanon member
 
“Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.”  A.S. Roche

The feeling that I am a mistake instead of 
feeling that I made a mistake.
Alanon member


We don’t have to act on our feelings,

we can look at them and let them pass.
Ala-non member
 
Every time I tell the truth, I gain my own freedom.Ala-non member
 
I need to be true to who I am to be able to have a sense of self.Alanon member
 
Am I comparing my insrides with other people’s outsides
when I feel out of it in a group?
Ala-non member
 
Say what you mean, mean what you say, 
but don’t be mean when you say it.
Ala-non member
 
 
 For once I didn’t buy into it and it was wonderful.
Alanon member 
 
 
 Rigidity always binds fear.Ala-non member
 I thought I couldn’t be happy until everyone else was, 
that’s the way I thought God wanted it to be. Ala-non member
Change can only come from a position of acceptance..
Ala-non member


There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Alanon member


 
Pause for Poise.
Ala-non member


“I can only love myself as much as I believe I am lovable.”
Ala-non member


 
I don’t worry about tomorrow because God has 
already been there and He has set the stage.
.Ala-non member
 
Pain is something that comes and goes,
 suffering is something we hold on to.
Ala-non member
 
Kindness – I like to treat myself with a Grandmother’s heart.
 Al-Anon is where we can practice kindness to ourselves. 
Ala-non member


Living in the past is VICTIM, Living in the
future is MANIPULATING. Live in the present.
Alanon member


Resentment is anger re sent, it goes round 
and round resending the feelings. 
Alanon member


All suffering is the result of thought pointing in the wrong direction.  Thought does not change an emotion but action does.
Alanon member

Meditation “sitting quietly and letting the mud settle”.
Alanon member


Don’t turn feelings into decisions.Alanon member

Kindness – I like to treat myself with a Grandmother’s heart.
 Al-Anon is where we can practice kindness to ourselves. 
Ala-non member



Sincerely,
Ron Richey
808-734-5732
545 Queen St. #701
Honolulu, Hi 96813
iamronrichey@gmail.com
www.melloron.com


Sincerely,
Ron Richey
808-734-5732
439 Nahua Street #2
Honolulu, Hi 96815
iamronrichey@gmail.com
www.melloron.com

 

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