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In A.A. we slowly learned that something had to be done about our vengeful resentments, self-pity, and unwarranted pride. We had to see that every time we played the big shot, we turned people against us. We had to see that when we harbored grudges and planned revenge for such defeats, we were really beating ourselves with the club of anger we had intended to use on others. We learned that if we were seriously disturbed, our first need was to quiet that disturbance, regardless of who or what we thought caused it.
c. 1952 AAWS, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 47
Resentment is like acid, eating away at the vessel it is stored in.
F A I L U R E= Fearful, Arrogant, Insecure, Lonely, Uncertain, Resentful, Empty
“Let me tell you the story of a certain man and his certain adventure,
and let’s see if you can discover yourself in the narration.
  This man lived on top of a hill in a big city and he looked down and
saw something that fascinated him: crime, riots in the streets, foolish
people staggering around, crying and shouting and throwing things at
each other. And he said, ‘Hey, that looks interesting, why don’t I join
them? They look like they are having so much fun and I am up here in
my little life, bored.’ So he wandered down the hill, and got caught up
in everything mad that was going on in that big town.
   And you listen to me: the first time he went down there he found
himself hurt, and when he came home he said, ‘What a marvelous evening
out.’ He wondered just a little bit, as he put a bandage around his head,
what it was all about, that he was attracted to going down there, getting
wounded, coming back and saying what a marvelous time I had.
  Next night he did the same thing, just like you ladies and gentlemen, he
repeated his behavior, got all mixed up with people and he got hurt again.
This happened for a number of months – a number of years in your life, if
you’re following the parallel.
  One time he got especially hurt, a very severe blow to him. He said, ‘I
don’t quite understand what I am doing, so I’ll ask someone who maybe
knows more than I do.’ So he found a man who was supposed to understand
life, and the man said, ‘It’s very simple if you can see it. The man told
him, ‘Sir,’ and I’m telling you, ladies and gentlemen, ‘getting hurt is
no fun.’
  And you know what he did? He agreed with it, ‘You’re right, that sort of
thing is no pleasure at all. Getting hurt is no fun. Thank you so much,
you’ve enlightened me. I understand what I’ve been doing. I’ve been very
foolish, but I’m not going to do it again.’ And then he went and did it
again and again.
  But the great idea, which was only an idea at the start – it’s no fun to
get in trouble – kept nagging him, hammering at him so that he couldn’t
get away from it. And he was glad of that. He was delighted to see that
the thought wouldn’t leave him alone because he sensed how vital it was
for him to go beyond the words so that the understanding turns into some
kind of an action.
  One time he went down and got battered around as usual but as he walked
back he began to feel a little bit different, as if more than just
the idea had come into him. And this is what you ought to be aiming for
if you’re sincere about this business of getting rid of your troubles –
the idea that he shouldn’t be there at all, he shouldn’t associate down
there. By the way he was associating with his own nature, wasn’t he?
You should understand that.
  So, the next night the temptation came again, he looked down and said,
‘I’m bored, I’ve got to do something exciting,’ and he left his house
and he walked down hill. But do you know what happened this time?
  When he got within a half a block of those riotous, miserable men and
women, no, no, he didn’t stop, something stopped him. And I hope you can
see the difference in what I just said. You see you can’t stop yourself
from being wretched, you never have. It should be pretty clear to you
that you can’t stop yourself doing anything wrong against yourself.
  And he said, and hopefully you’ll say this one day, ‘That wasn’t me that
did that. Hah, that’s very interesting, that’s very fascinating,’ he said
to himself. ‘I wonder maybe if something is happening to me that I am not
the cause of, something that is true intelligence that I haven’t had up
until this time?'”
Come Home to Inner Health
The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to
Accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And the Wisdom to know the difference.
We were now at Step Three.
 Many of us said to our Maker, as we understood Him:
“God, I offer myself to Thee – to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the 
bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them 
may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy 
will always!”
We thought well before taking this step making sure we were ready; that we could at last abandon 
ourselves utterly to Him. 
Seventh Step Prayer
-The Seventh Step Prayer is from page 76. The Big Book
   When ready, we say something like this:
“My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now 
remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you 
and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen.”
We have then completed Step Seven.
-(Both derived from page 86 in the Big Book)
St Francis Prayer
-From Chapter 11 of “Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions”
“Lord, make me a channel of they peace,
that where there is hatred, I may bring love;
that where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness;
that where there is discord, I may bring harmony
that where there is error, I may bring truth;
that where there is doubt, I may bring faith;
that where there is despair, I may bring hope;
that where there are shadows, I may bring light;
that where there is sadness, I may bring joy.
Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted;
to understand, than to be understood;
to love, than to be loved.
For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.
It is by forgiving that one is forgiven.
It is by dying that one awakens to Eternal Life.”                        
St. Francis Assisi (1182-1228).
You are an eternal being now on the pathway of endless unfoldment, never less but always more yourself. Life is not static. It is forever dynamic, forever creatingnot something done and finished, but something alive, awake and aware. There is something within you that sings the song of eternity. Listen to it.
Ernest Holmes

I teach my sighs to lengthen into songs.
“For the thirst to possess your love,
Is worth my blood a hundred times.” 
― Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi –
The Joy That Wounds: The Love Poems of Rumi
ACIM Workbook Lesson 68 Insights
“Love holds no grievances.”
I am learning to remember that I am Love and nothing else. I am learning to remember that everyone is Love and nothing else. I am learning that forgetting that I am Love or that everyone is Love is holding a grievance. Forgetting my Identity as Love is the same as refusing to let Love come into my awareness and choosing to make something other than Love real.
In this lesson Jesus is helping me realize that when I make the body real by seeing myself as a body, I am holding a grievance against God. Jesus wants me to realize what this does to my mind. He wants me to realize how this ‘forgetting’ creates a sense of fear and not being safe. He wants me to realize how this ‘forgetting’ creates a sense of guilt and lack of peace and happiness.
He wants me to be happy. He wants me to return to the awareness of the truth of Love’s Presence, which is all that is real. He wants to help me move past the clouds of separation, of belief in separate bodies, to the truth that only Love is real. He is guiding me to forgive, or let go of my replacement for my true Identity as Love.
As I learn to see everyone as my dearest Friend, this helps me to know that I am perfectly safe and still reside in Love. I have not left Love, even though I have chosen to ‘forget’ Love awhile. I am so grateful for these constant reminders of the truth about my Self, which includes All That Is. I am grateful to be given a pathway that helps me let go of grievances, that I may awaken to my one Self.
Any time I am not supremely happy, I am holding a grievance. I have judged against what is and want it to be different. Beneath all the judgments that come up in this world of form is the core judgment against God.
This world is the effect of deciding that God’s gift of all of His Love is not enough, that somehow I would be happier with something else. This is our core grievance against God, against Love. We spend our lives searching for Love, yet we are unwilling to accept It as It is.
This is why it is so important that I recognize that Love holds no grievances. When I get this and accept it, I will experience the joy of God. I will feel the safety that comes with knowing that harm is impossible.
Once in a while I do a big spring cleaning on my living space. I toss out what doesn’t fit, doesn’t suit, doesn’t work,everything I can live without. I am left with a feeling of satisfaction at the clean, airy, light space I have made.
That is what this lesson feels like. I feel like placing vases of bright spring flowers in my mind to celebrate a good job done. The thing about spring cleaning is that I have to repeat it every few months as the clutter starts to re-accumulate. I don’t know where it comes from. Sometimes I could swear it grows in the night as I sleep.
It seems to be the same with grievances. Even as I stand admiring the great bright space I have created as I forgave each grievance, I sense grievances try to skitter past my attention to once again take up residence in my mind. The little ones come first, I am sure, hoping I won’t recognize them as the destructive forces they are because they don’t seem important. Later, the bigger grievances, the ugly ones and the scary too, will return to the home I have offered them for so long.
How to make them feel unwelcome here? I will remain vigilant today and try to catch each thought and turn it back at the door. I will look to Holy Spirit to help me. The text says,“Your newborn purpose is nursed by angels, cherished by the Holy Spirit and protected by God Himself.” How can I fail?
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The season of failure is the best time for sowing the seeds of success.
Paramahansa Yogananda
Ron Richey
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