From the BlogMeet Ron


Dear friends,
I think we all get into meditation with what they call “gaining ideas.” 
But as we stick with this simple path, we see that that it’s not so much about getting some cool effects, or losing some part of our personality we don’t like, but rather the more we are in the experience of what is, the less distress arises.
Subtle and large distress. Worry. Lamentation. Grief. 
But it’s not easy being in the experience of what is, if what is = unpleasant. 
Body aches, boredom, sleepiness, emotional anguish, fear.
We want to postpone unpleasant emotions, forever if we could. And at some point or other, these come up in our meditation sessions.
I remember this New Yorker a cartoon is of an executive who’s on the phone and says, 
“John, Thursday doesn’t work for me. Never works for me. Does never work for you?”
Kind of a rude comment, but hey, it’s New York.
As someone in our weekly group realized, after working through a particularly challenging part of her meditative journey, meditation is not about letting go, but rather of being with.
When she let go of the notion of letting go of unpleasant experiences that were coming up, and was simply with them, she was able to fully experience them in ways she could not, or would not, before.
She worked the edges of her ever-broadening capacity for the mindful, fully engaged, non-reactive being-with-ness we call mindfulness. 
All of the mindfulness meditation techniques point to the same thing: moving into the direct, moment to moment, experience of feelings-thoughts-emotions, because when we experience it completely, the feeling completes its reason for being, and it releases. 
The richness in the practice is discovered with progressive depth the more we are able to fully experience feelings-thoughts-emotions from within this non-reactive, fully embracing mindful awareness. 
And the healing relief when large chunks of psycho-karma drop away is unlike anything most humans feel in their lives. 
The bugaboo here is that if you approach this practice with the intention to work through or dispel the unpleasant feelings or issues, not a whole lot happens that’s worthwhile.
Because you’ve brought expectation to the table.
The path is clear: meditate and settle the restless mind. 
Then work the edges.
If you don’t go to the edge, nothing changes. You go to the edge, and you rest your attention right there, with whatever is arising. 
And as you develop more capacity, you’re able to move deeper and deeper into the feeling without having the attention get fuzzy and degrade. 
You have to find where the edge is for you. 
Where is it for you right now?
Aloha,Tom, Katina, and the kids

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