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+MORE FROM CHUCK D.

If you keep on saying things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of being a prophet. 
–Isaac Bashevis Singer
Many of us have the habit of taking a negative outlook on whatever comes along.
We don’t believe things will work out for us; we don’t think we will have a good day;
we can’t accept our friends’ warm feelings. To follow this gloomy path is a strange distortion of faith –
it is faith in the negative. Any forecast, whether hopeful or pessimistic, is a step into the unknown.
So why do we choose the dark one?
We get a payoff for our pessimism, which keeps us hooked. It creates misery, but serves our demand for control.
There is more risk in being open to something positive because we cannot force positive things to occur.
We can only be open to them and believe in the possibility. But when we predict the negative and expect only bad things,
we squelch many good things or overlook them. Then we say, “I knew it would be this way,”
and in our misery we satisfy our self-centered craving to be in charge. When we surrender our need to be in control,
we are more open and welcoming of the good things that come our way.
Today. I will be open to the good that is around me.

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He was shut out from all family affairs.
No one told him anything.
The children, alone with their mother,
told her all about the day’s happenings, everything….
But as soon as the father came in, everything stopped.
–D. H. Lawrence
Many of us folks are on the outer edge of our family circles.
The closeness between our children and our spouses often seems more comfortable,
more intimate than our relationships with them.
Perhaps it’s similar to the closeness we had with our mother while our father was outside.
It is painful to us and probably not entirely our own fault. We were taught that our main
job was outside the home – supporting our family by earning a living.
But it is up to us to change the situation.Many of us learned from our own father that grown
men stay aloof from emotional relationships, but this has hurt our relationships and alienated
us from the people we most care for. Learning to know our feelings and how to express them
helps us move into the family circle of intimacy.
Today, I will let go of my aloofness with my family so they can know me better.

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LIVE and let live
EASY does it
BUT for the grace of God
THINK think think
FIRST things first
When put in this order five of our sayings produce
a sixth saying by taking the first word of each one t
o make the sixth: LIVE EASY BUT THINK FIRST.
–unknown

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Those who are mentally and emotionally healthy are those who have learned when to say yes, when to say no, and when to say whoopee!
–Willard S. Krabill
We humans have fallen into many difficulties because of poorly defined personal boundaries. Some of us never learned to say no to our mothers and felt invaded or ruled by them. Or we never truly said no to our parents – never went through a teenage rebellion to establish ourselves as adults. Others have gotten stuck saying no and have never learned to yield and say yes.
Boundary problems have been part of the difficulty in many areas of our lives. We’ve told ourselves we have no right to our yes or no, or we’ve said we’re strong enough to sacrifice for someone else, or we’ve welcomed the escape from ourselves in discarding our choice. Not saying no when we needed to or not saying yes when we wanted to has led many of us into doctors’ offices, courts, jails, lost jobs, divorces, and bad marriages. Now the inner voice of our Higher Power is showing us our limits and encouraging us to stand up for them.
I am learning to know myself by defining my boundaries and choosing when and when not to cross them.

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Is the inventor of the ear unable to hear? Is the creator of the eye unable to see? 
–Psalms 94:9
The way we have been restored to our spiritual path is partly a mystery. Our willingness to accept mystery in our lives has taught us we are part of a larger whole. There is more at work in the world than we can know. Acceptance of the larger whole restores us to health.
We are not just separate beings with a private world. Our existence is part of a larger process. We came into being with no control and no forethought on our own part. We arise from a past that no one remembers.
It was when we didn’t see our place – as part of creation – that we were in the greatest pain and difficulty. Now each day, each hour, when we remember we are not in charge, and our will is not in control, we are restored again.
I am thankful for the mystery of recovery.
I accept this mystery as part of all the mysteries beyond my control

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Willingness 
At different meetings, I’ve heard and used that statement about claw marks being all over things that I’ve given up, which is really meant to say that I (and we) have all had a hard time letting go of (fill in the blank), hence the claw marks comment. 
I think it’s pretty honest and real. But, as the meditation continues, the important thing is that we did let go (and let God) and that we became willing. If I’m not willing, then I’m shutting down all the possibilities. 
   Willingness leads to openness which leads to
Awareness which leads to
Understanding which leads to
Compassion which leads to
Non-judgment which leads to
Acceptance which leads to
Forgiveness which leads to
Peace which leads to
Loving-kindness which leads to
Gratitude which leads to
Humility which leads to
a sense of Oneness and Unity with Spirit and all of creation. 
And it’s Willingness that opens the door. 
I pray that I become and remain willing to go where Spirit leads me and do what it takes.

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We shall describe conditions of the soul that words can only hint at. We shall have to use logic to try to corner perspectives that laugh at our attempt. 
–Huston Smith
As we live the spiritual life, we find words and logic are only capable of pointing in the direction of some truths. Words do not contain the entire truth our experience may be teaching us. This is like the difference between hearing about fishing versus actually being on the water, smelling the misty air, and feeling the fish tug on our line.
Spiritual development is a form of education. We are developing the part of us that learns by experience, that has a feeling without exactly knowing why, that understands stories better than statistics. Gradually, we accept more experiences in our lives as mysteries, as not fitting into any specific categories. Many experiences will have more meaning than cold facts could ever express. As this side of us develops, we don’t discard reason and judgment; we become deeper human beings.
Today, I will give my intuition more freedom. That will help my spiritual self grow.

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