From the BlogMeet Ron



Bill Sees It
Light From A Prayer, p. 20
   “God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
   We treasure our “Serenity Prayer” because it brings a new light to us that can dissipate our oldtime and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves.
  In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try to overcome adversity by still another bulldozing drive that can only push up obstacles before us faster than they can be taken down.
Grapevine, March 1962

As Bill Sees It
Anger–Personal and Group Enemy, p. 98
  “As the book ‘Alcoholics Anonymous’ puts it, ‘Resentment is the Number One offender.’ It is a primary cause of relapses into drinking. How well we of A.A. know that for us ‘To drink is eventually to go mad or die.’
  “Much the same penalty overhangs every A.A. group. Given enough anger, both unity and purpose are lost. Given still more ‘righteous’ indignation, the group can disintegrate; it can actually die. This is why we avoid controversy. This is why we prescribe no punishments for any misbehavior, no matter how grievous. Indeed, no alcoholic can be deprived of his membership for any reason whatever.
“Punishment never heals. Only love can heal.”
Letter, 1966

More will be revealed= Spiritual Growth

There’s an old saying, “To him that hath, more shall be given.” That saying applies to our growth in AA. If we dedicate ourselves to the program, new information and understanding will continue to flow in our direction.

This is not because God is singling us out for special favors. It’s simply a law of life. When we are interested in a subject, we find more knowledge coming to us almost “Out of the blue” as we continue to seek it. It’s almost as if hidden forces were gathering up ideas and pushing them in our direction.

What’s happened is that we have put ourselves in line for such growth. We have our antennae out, and we become conditioned to recognize useful ideas as they come to us. We are Open-Minded to our good.

This same process has also led to more general knowledge about alcoholism. When the early AA’s attained sobriety, most of the information about alcoholism was summed up in a handful of books. Now there are hundreds of books, symposia, and speeches dealing with the subject. More was revealed, and we can hope that even more will be revealed as we continue to focus on recovery.

I can expect useful information to come to me from a number of sources. My interest in my recovery and self-improvement helps attract the information and understanding I need.

Parable by a Sponsor 
A member of the program of recovery, who previously had been attending 
meetings regularly, stopped going. After a few weeks, her sponsor decided 
to visit her. It was a chilly evening and the sponsor found the sponsee at 
home alone, sitting before a blazing fire.
Guessing the reason for her sponsor’s visit, the sponsee welcomed her, 
led her to a big chair near the fireplace and waited. Her sponsor made 
herself comfortable but said nothing. In the grave silence, she 
contemplated the play of the flames around the burning logs. After some 
minutes, the sponsor took the fire tongs, carefully picked up a brightly 
burning ember and placed it to one side of the hearth all alone.
  Then she sat back in her chair, still silent. The sponsee watched all 
this in quiet fascination. As the one lone ember’s flame diminished, there 
was a momentary glow and then its fire was no more. Soon it was cold and 
“dead as a doornail.”
  Not a word had been spoken since the initial greeting. Just before the 
 sponsor was ready to leave, she picked up the cold, dead ember and placed it 
 back in the middle of the fire. Immediately it began to glow once more with 
the light and warmth of the burning coals around it.
As the sponsor reached the door to leave, the sponsee said, “Thank you so 
much for your visit and especially for the fiery sermon. I’ll see you at 
the meeting in the morning.”
 — Author Unknown
Man derives all the joy and peace that he needs
 from within himself and not from sources outside himself. 
So the best spiritual discipline is: strengthen the inward vision.
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

I don’t precisely know what you need to do to take care of yourself. But I know you can figure it out.
Rest when you’re tired.
Take a drink of cold water when you’re thirsty.
Call a friend when you’re lonely.
Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed.
Many of us have learned how to deprive and neglect ourselves. Many of us have learned to push ourselves hard, when the problem is that we already pushed too hard.
Many of us are afraid the work won’t get done if we rest when were tired. The work will get done; it will be done better than work that emerges from tiredness of soul and spirit. Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.
They are well timed, efficient, and Divinely led.
Today, I will practice loving self-care.
Today I can make peace within myself without needing the approval and agreement of others. Today I can love and respect people who do not always share my view of the world. 

There are those who study only words and speech, who may seem to be enlightened when they open their mouths to speak.In reality, however, when faced with everyday situations, they become so flustered that they do not know what to do. This shows the difference between the nature of words and the nature of actions.


First things first

Busy people often declare, with some exasperation, that they cannot do everything at once. People with emotional problems, a group that includes many alcoholics, often feel that they are trying to do everything at once. Quite often, this pressure means that we waste our time fretting about all the things facing us, becoming totally ineffective as a result.

The simple slogan “First things First” shows us how to set priorities in an orderly way. In every situation or problem, there is always one step we can take that is more important than the others. Following that, we find a step of second importance, another of third importance, and so on. Sometimes, a certain action comes first simply because other things depend on it.

By using “First things first” as a guiding principle in our lives, we can live in an orderly, disciplined manner. If we have to reduce our activities, we can decide which few ought to retain. Having made these decisions, we can be at peace about our choices. We cannot do everything at once and we need not feel guilty about it.
Knowing that order is Heaven’s first law, I’ll do things today in an orderly manner.

After difficult or challenging times we often say, “I never would have chosen to go through that, but I learned a lot from it.” It could be a job situation, a failed relationship, or trouble with the law. When we bump up against something hard something that pushes back at us, our strength is tested, forcing us to draw on unknown reserves. A mountain climber standing on a safe ledge finds it difficult to move forward onto a more frightening spot. After he has completed the route, he looks back and feels good about himself because he met a challenge. We meet these challenges in many ways in our lives, and they help us build our self-respect.

Whatever difficulty is facing us today, we may have to deal with it ourselves, but we do not have to be alone while we do it. We can reach out for support while we do what we must. This difficulty is part of being human and can help us see more fully who we are.

I pray for the courage to face my adversity when I must and the ability to learn from it.

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